I’ve been wanting to talk to you for a long time about this film and the book which are very dear to me. I am from the generation that grew up with Harry Potter and yet it is not his novels that I am going to talk to you about but Michael Ende’s The Never Ending Story. This was my mom’s favorite book and now mine. I have read and reread it dozens of times, in several languages. A story that I love and which personally helped me get through the darkest moments of my life. Because we only understand all the outcomes of this story once we really understand what mourning is while giving us hope.
If you have only known the film I highly recommend the book, as the film only covers part of the story.
It took me a long time to write this article because it resonated with a lot of personal things for me but I hope you like it.
Have a good read.
Never Ending Story: Facing your life through art?
The loss of a loved one, a hope or even a dream often acts like a cataclysm, a trauma destroying everything in its path. Nothing matters anymore, time freezes and we are trapped in a kind of thick fog where the future, desire and joy have completely disappeared. A world invaded by dark forces, devastating feeling by feeling everything in their path but, what if I told you that in the midst of this debris of life, there is still hope? Because the works can help us get through all this, to come out of it, that this is exactly the heart of this fantasy account that is Never Ending Story. A work tackling extremely deep and powerful subjects, plunging us not into the imagination of a dreaming young boy but into the abysses of death, mourning and depression.
Don’t worry, I’m not going to destroy your memory of this beautiful film (and book), because The Never Ending Story shows us, and this is the most important thing, how art, in all its forms can help us through the darkest trials of our existence to transcend them and emerge stronger.
Synopsis of the film
The film tells the story of Bastien, a sensitive and slightly lost child who comes across a mysterious book called The Never Ending Story. By diving into this work, he discovers Fantasia, a universe of limitless beauty and imagination. Unfortunately, this world and its princess are threatened by an evil that spreads everywhere and destroys everything, The Void.
Atriou, the solitary warrior is sent on his steed Artax in search of a solution to save the world and its princess. He will therefore have to go through many trials and fight this evil. Fortunately a dragon named Falkor will support him in this difficult task.
Little by little Bastien discovers that his destiny is linked to that of Atriou and that he can help him in his quest.
Fight against your own Void.
The loss of a loved one, a hope, or a completely different dream acts like a real cataclysm in our life, trapping us in an unlivable reality, a present without flavor, without hope, without desire. We then let ourselves be invaded by our darkest, most desperate thoughts.
“This void will never be filled, why is it transforming into a black hole that sucks everything in? “
These are often the first thoughts and sensations that we can feel in these terrible moments of our lives when nothing will taste like it did before, where the void created can never be filled and even seems to suck everything onto its surface. passage. At this moment, it is impossible to imagine that mourning is only a passing moment. One more scar to heal, but one that we survive. A hope that is still inaudible since the latter begins at the beginning, the first phase of it, that of denial.
Indeed, we know that mourning is punctuated by a series of stages to go through, allowing us little by little to rebuild ourselves in order to see the sun shine again. This number of stages can vary depending on the individual from 5 to 9 but the ones we find mainly are:
- Denial
- Anger
- The Depression
- Acceptance
- Reconstruction
Of course, here these are very distinct stages, in reality, no one follows such a theoretical pattern and some of us will perhaps be more impacted by anger than denial, etc.
Finally all these feelings also mix all at the same time in unequal proportions over time until they completely disappear for some but as we are still here to talk about The Never Ending Story, let’s focus on Bastien who will illustrate everything this to perfection.
“I had another dream, dad, with mom”
We discover from the beginning of the film that Bastien lost his mother very recently. A trauma that weighs on him every day. He seems to have great difficulty reconnecting with reality and shows all the signs of depression:
Loss of appetite
School dropout
Refusal of activities that would reconnect him with the present
A present that he does not want to accept and we can understand that. So he no longer acts because unconsciously acting would mean continuing to move forward and therefore accepting this reality. A reality faced with which he does not imagine having the necessary resources to get through it. He therefore instead tries to find refuge in the imagination and books as a denial of reality.
In response to his son, the father replied this:
“Mom’s death must not be used as an excuse for not doing our job. You agree ? »
This reaction is clumsy, allows me to remind myself, even if it is obvious that we cannot ask people to react as we do to the same situation. Quite simply because each person has their own reaction pattern linked to a whole bunch of things that have built them up since childhood.
Bastien seems to us to be a vulnerable child, having no self-confidence, so faced with such a harsh world where he has just lost his mother and has just been extorted, it seems entirely logical that the latter has a tendency, a once again to delve into his books. In his refuge, because it seems to have always worked like this.
But what he doesn’t yet know is that this new book will break this pattern and allow him to discover himself. Finally facing this famous reality that petrifies him so much. We thus discover in the story that Bastien reads that a terrible plague is falling on the world of Fantasia and that the princess risks dying if no one does anything.
In reality, since this magical book tells a different story depending on who is reading it, we directly realize that the princess represents her mother. A mother he would have loved to save from illness.
There seems to be a mysterious connection between his illness and The Void.
The Void is both the illness that took away his mother but also the depression he suffers, which gradually eats away every space of happiness and imagination in his mind. Plunging him into deep darkness.
Bastien is not yet aware of it but through this story he is unconsciously replaying this reality that is too hard to accept, putting it at a distance through a story and characters different from him at first glance but resembling him. enormously when we observe them from an outside eye.
It is also a young boy named Atriou who is appointed to save the princess and destroy this famous The Void. A child strongly resembling Bastien’s desires and passions.
Unable to be in the action, Bastien therefore uses Atriou as an avatar to project himself into the story and thus realize through the latter the strength he actually possesses.
This is called unconscious transference.
That is to say, we transfer to a third person (fictitious or not) a desire or a feeling that we had for someone else. Here the desire to save his mother through Atriou’s quest to save the princess.
Moreover, it is the princess herself who asks to bring this boy to save her. We can therefore assume that Bastien is replaying here something that he would have liked to do for himself and causing him a lot of guilt.
This transfer will also allow him to realize his immense inner strength. Atriou therefore allows him this distancing from himself necessary to become aware of the resources he currently possesses to get through this ordeal. Understanding how extremely resilient it is and that nothing is ever finished. He even makes it clear that he must act now and take action because the depression he is experiencing is locking him in and making him more and more gangrene.
In reality here we understand that it is a real battle that begins between resilience, acceptance and overcoming embodied by Atriou and depression and mourning embodied by this beast:
An emissary sent by The Void to intercept Atriou. In short, two antagonistic forces continually fighting within us in different forms. Bastien therefore unconsciously placed all the elements of his own life in this story, allowing him to replay this reality differently and therefore to accept it and overcome it more easily.
For example when Atriou arrives in the swamps of melancholy, here we understand that this is exactly what Bastien is currently experiencing.
That is to say, being immersed in sadness and no longer able to move forward in your own life. This life impulse is therefore heard or if he does nothing this darkness will completely suck him away.
But it is also a way to relive mourning and death through Artax without directly associating him with his mother. A necessary distance in his work of acceptance. Bastien thus begins, unconsciously, to understand that his story and that of Atriou are linked and that there is not really a barrier but rather a continuum between them, in particular, when frightened by the arrival of Morla.
His cry is heard even in the book.
Morla represents this kind of nihilism linked to depression where nothing seems important to us anymore, where we feel completely empty.
” Die ? that would at least be something”
This renunciation in the face of the fact that getting out of it seems so far away that we prefer to give up and not even try.
We see to what extent this impacts Bastien in his reality, because he, who was ready to stop reading, frightened by what he saw, decides to act as Atriou would do. He therefore begins to let himself know that he too has the capabilities.
“Atriou will not give up now”
And that’s the whole point of transfer. This is because although it is done in one direction at the start, it can then be done in the other direction, allowing one to understand that something that one was not ready to receive at the beginning departure or that one would not have agreed to hear via another person like with one’s father for example. This creates a sort of buffer zone between ourselves.
Atriou continues to move forward at all costs and shows us and Bastien that even when everything may seem definitively lost and without hope, we can always manage to hold on to something. Nothing is ever finished. Behind the worst storms there is always a ray of sunshine ready to pierce the clouds but in the meantime, we must hold on.
Bastien continues this unconscious work, making himself heard by several people. Messages via Falkor or through old people he meets.
Moreover, here is an essential sentence in his work of mourning, because as we saw earlier, denial is an important phase, often the first where we seek to avoid reality because it is too vivid, too brutal. However, to heal any injury, you must first become aware of the pain it causes in order to then be able to treat it effectively. Putting a thought on an open fracture will never heal anything, the same goes for psychological wounds. If we don’t treat them commensurate with the pain they cause us, we are left with just a gaping wound that will never heal and will ooze all our lives. To feel pain is to accept that it is part of our reality. We can then start working on it to be able to heal it in the best conditions. This brings us to the next test for Atriou, where only a man without doubt can pass it.
We then observe that a knight in armor, who appears invincible, nevertheless perishes in the face of it. Here is a new opportunity for Bastien to make himself heard that to have self-confidence, to feel strong, it is not enough to have a lot of protection, quite the contrary. Not being in denial and opening your heart to yourself provides the best protection from the outside world. Arming yourself with a shell simply cuts you off from others but especially ultimately from yourself.
It is now obvious that the stage where the transfer between Bastien and Atriou is no longer in doubt and takes place in both directions. When he has to confront himself, a test that is clearly particularly feared.
Here, even if Bastien has difficulty accepting it and believing it, he discovers that he is not only the sensitive and introverted little boy who endures life but also a little bit of Atriou, a child full of strength, hope and confidence in him. Someone with the ability to go through life’s challenges with courage and determination.
Atriou arrives before the oracle and discovers that to save the princess, a human child must give her a new name. A more than obvious way for Bastien to make himself heard that he must now take part in his own story and no longer be a simple spectator, yet this pattern of inaction is so deeply anchored in him that he still has hard to get past it.
“What a shame he didn’t ask me, mom had the most wonderful name in the world. »
We see that Bastien consciously lets the memory of his mother come back for the first time since the beginning of this adventure and that it is time for him to move forward, but to act, he must now overcome the guilt he feels towards -towards his mother because The Void and depression continue their work tirelessly.
Through this last sentence, two ways of approaching the trials of life and in particular that in which Bastien has trapped himself. That is to say, constantly thinking that tragedies are going to happen, that they are unsurpassable, that we endure everything and therefore we might as well do nothing. You might as well wait in inaction, paralyzed, or accept that they do indeed exist, that they are there, but not let yourself be paralyzed by them and live to the fullest while waiting. In short, refuse to let yourself be devoured by fear.
Why fear something when you don’t know when it will arrive, or even in what form? This would in fact amount to choosing The void when everyday life shows us that there are so many other positive and especially neutral things that mostly happen. Knowing how to appreciate them is choosing life, hope and Bastien once again makes it heard.
Unfortunately he still contemplates this spectacle going to the end of his depressive phase in the face of mourning, looking straight in the eyes at the state in which he believes he is. So accepting it, but still not being able to imagine that he is the main character of his own story. That he has the right to act as he wants, as he wishes, that it is his life, forgetting or discovering that it is always in the middle of the void that something can be reborn, that the past cannot does not escape but on the other hand the present is built for him and above all forgetting the main thing that he went through this particularly difficult personal history but that he survived. That he has already succeeded where he thinks he has failed.
Bastien finally chooses to act and accepts this reality. He accepts his mother’s death and moves past it. His way of making it heard and especially of making himself heard is to shout out all the love he has for her, symbolically saving her from the void by keeping her forever in his heart.
Face your life through art?
After this first period of analysis, we can already say that The Never Ending Story is beyond being a film about mourning, depression and resilience, a creation highlighting the power of works even on those who receive them . That the latter allow us to project ourselves consciously or unconsciously into a story where characters are both far enough from our lives to avoid protecting ourselves too much but also close enough to obtain a new angle, to take a side step, to gain distance on how to get through certain life challenges or even to have access to a part of our personality that we refuse to see or admit. Of course the point here is not to say that each work has such an effect on all spectators but simply to observe that sometimes one in particular can shake us, speak to us deep within ourselves, in short grab us by the Gut.
I think that I am certainly not the only one to have discovered a work that gave me this strange impression that it was intended for me, addressing a specific moment in my life. A feeling in particular with such accuracy, a magical sensation that art gives us but which is not very surprising either.
Indeed, many artists will tell you that through their creations, consciously or unconsciously, they carry out their therapy in a way. That they need this to allow them to move forward, expiating a weight, a suffering or a beauty that they need to express, share or in any case externalize, as if to entrust to the world:
“This is how I feel, am I the only one? »
As it is in singularity that we can touch the universal, it seems logical that the more sincere a work is, therefore not seeking to please the greatest number of people, the more it will touch its target deep in its guts, acting as a sounding board for our own history. So we too by receiving this, we feel less alone.
Less alone in discovering that our suffering, although terrible to experience, is not our belief to bear, that it is not intended for us. That it is something much more universal, felt by everyone at different times in our lives.
I had a lot of emotions writing all this, that’s partly why I haven’t posted for so long, well if you read these last words you must be tired of reading me. I hope it was interesting and not too boring.
Take care of yourself and your loved ones and see you soon!